Finding Your Center
Our center holds our purpose, our fire, and the very essence of who we are. Finding our center is the best chance we have to live our life to the absolute fullest. But let me interject here when I say, life is erratic, and we are not always going to be calm, cool and collected. There are times where we are going to feel completely stressed out, as if we are skydiving with no parachute and hoping for the best on the way down. Be that as it may, here me out… this is when we must return to our center and find our way back to what matters.
Your center will always remain. We exist in a standardized, opinionated and insistent world where we will often find ourselves feeling internally astray—aggravating circumstances and demanding routines throw us off balance and we can lose our way. But if we pull our focus within, and appreciate balance within ourselves, we can rely on our center. Our center is where we become grounded, even when everything turns out to be a complete disaster, and we feel like the world is crashing down around us.
We will drift from what matters the most. The understanding that we will have to return to our center time and time again tells us we are human. We are going to veer away from ourselves and lose sight of what’s most important. And you know something, that’s okay. The point is not to eliminate these times of uncertainty, the point is to inevitably pilot through the mayhem with a humbling sense of self recognition.
Be here now. Being present in life is one of the best ways we can find our center. Although it sounds easy, being truly present in the moment can be challenging for many of us. In today’s world, there are so many distractions that are thrown our way. We live in a bustling, technological time full of interruptions, to-do lists and never-ending expectations. Our brain is like one big web browser with a million tabs open and we try to be everywhere all at one time. Pause… feel your breath as it flows through you. Be here now. Do not worry about what you must do tomorrow, do not think about what happened last week. Be here now. Consider where your attention goes, where your mind drifts. When you are out at dinner with family or friends, put your phone away, listen to what they are saying and enjoy their company. Turn off the television and go for a walk, listen to the sounds of the birds and the trees. Each and every moment holds purpose.
Focus on what matters most. There seems to never be enough hours in the day to get everything done. But is that really the case, or are we just not focusing on the things that matter? We often find ourselves getting caught up in the mundane— work, money, appointments, routines and social status. It becomes a habitual cycle that ultimately separates us from not only ourselves, but the things that hold the greatest meaning to us in life. Once the cycle is created, it can be difficult to break. Love, kindness, adventure, dreams… these are the things which give us life, the things we stay alive for. To discover your center and achieve inner tranquility, simplicity is key. You must let go of things that don’t matter and start putting energy into what nurtures your beautiful spirit. Make a list of the top five things that matter to you in life. Then hang that incredible list up on your wall, bathroom mirror or desk and read it every day to remind you where your heart lies.
Treat yourself and trust your intuition. When you begin to feel lost, it is likely you are not taking care of yourself as you should. It is often easier to do for others than it is to do for ourselves. We should all do a better job of putting ourselves higher on our to-do list. It is not selfish to love and respect yourself. At the end of the day, the relationship you hold with yourself is the most important one. You will grow more content when you stop wasting your energy on things that cause you internal conflict, whether that be relationships, work, or habits. You will find greater happiness when you take care of your mind, body and soul. Value your life force, admire your individuality and recognize your true potential. We are all granted with a unique intuition. An undebatable truth, a gut instinct. Your heart will always provide you with the greatest insight. Your dreams, passions and goals are your calling, and you should answer them.
Set powerful intentions. During our daily routine, we sometimes feel like the walking dead. We reach mental unconsciousness and without even realizing it, we unintentionally neglect our mindfulness. When you start to feel like a zombie, return to your center by drawing your attention inwards and focus on your intentions. Unify your mind and your heart and find balance there. With your intuition as your guide, allow your intentions to surface. Each day think about what you want in your life and pay no respect to what is standing in your way. Set powerful intentions for yourself and write them down. In times of turmoil where you find yourself feeling irritated or doubtful, read your intentions aloud to yourself while you return to your center. Make conscious decisions in each moment that will manifest your intentions into truth.
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